Can you feel the love?

By: Lauren Kirby

Even though it's our last year, let's make sure and stay focused. Photo courtesy of Austin Hazen

It’s been said that in a relationship, the boy should always have the upper hand. Well if you ask me, I don’t think either person should be in charge or have more power then the other, especially in a high school relationship. I don’t think there is a problem with being in a serious relationship at our age, but we are young and have so much ahead of us, so why bother being committed to someone if they are always bossing you around or really just spoiling your final years of being a teenager?

            I think it’s safe to say that most girls enjoy having a guy that takes charge sometimes; at least I know I do. That twisted idea that if a boy is being mean to you it means he likes you, all started back in Pre-School days and has managed to make it’s way to our teen years. For some reason, it makes things easier to just back down and let the guy be right because that way there’s no argument at the end. I’m not saying that this is always a bad thing, but there is a line that you have to set in a relationship that the boys just shouldn’t be allowed to cross.

            It’s okay once in a while to give him an ego booster and agreeing to whatever you may be fighting about, but don’t let him get too comfortable. If guys get used to us girls being pushovers all the time, then that mean, jerkish side of them we love to see sometimes is going to become permanent, and that’s when it turns into an unhealthy relationship. Every girl wants to keep their boyfriend happy, but that doesn’t mean you need to be a pushover. Because believe it or not, guys like the chase just as much as we do, and if you turn into his doormat or his puppy dog attached to his hip then again, the relationship will not work.

            Being able to find someone with whom you can have fun and enjoy being young is definitely not a bad thing. Couples our age just need to make sure that they have a happy medium with each other. When you start out a relationship with someone, you are clearly attracted to them and make each other happy. But if you give a guy the right to push you around, then your relationship will turn into a disaster. We might like letting them take command sometimes, but no girl can honestly say she enjoys that all the time. You don’t want to be miserable and end up being stuck in the middle of something that can’t be fixed. So for all the girls that may feel the same way I do, just make sure to be smart and stand up for yourself. And remember, “Don’t make someone a priority in life, when you’re only an option in theirs.”


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