Relationship reality

In Columns on December 16, 2011 at 8:02 pm

Look at them like you actually care about what they’re saying, and actually listen to what they say as well. Photo courtesy of Drew Marshall

By: Trevor Ottley

                Guys, relationships are a difficult thing to grasp for some of you, and I understand that, but that doesn’t mean you have to be a jerk about it. A lot of girls think that all guys are uncaring, self-centered idiots who know nothing except for how to talk and play sports. Well, I am here to tell you guys how to make that stereotype disappear. 

                First, you have to know how to talk to a girl without making yourself look like a complete tool in all aspects. Look like a normal person when you confront the girl. Don’t lift your head high in the air and broaden your shoulders. You literally aren’t accomplishing anything by doing that, other than looking ridiculously idiotic. Look at them like you actually care about what they’re saying, and actually listen to what they say as well. Sure, you might hear a lot of complaining, but you have to know how to deal with that if you want to be in  a good, healthy relationship.

                Second, know what your girlfriend is really trying to say to you. A lot of the time, for some odd reason, girls tend to say things that are exactly the opposite of what they really mean. For example, if you are getting ready to do something with your friends, and she says, “You don’t have to stay if you don’t want to,” then she really means: You better not go and you better not choose your friends over me. Also, if they suddenly get really quiet and turn away from you, something obviously isn’t right, and you need to do something about it. A good remedy to cure their sadness is to just go up to them and hug them, or give them a kiss on the cheek, or even better, do both! It usually takes a few minutes, but you have to be patient with them, which leads into the final, most important part of relationships.

                Guys, you have to know how to be patient with your girlfriends and realize, no matter how much you don’t like to, that the girl has most of the control in the relationship. Just think about it. When have you ever been happy when your girlfriend is angry at you? It is very rare and it probably means that your relationship isn’t doing so hot. The only way to make situations like that better is to be patient with them and try to comfort them as much as possible. Girls love to get compliments, so just tell them they look beautiful and say something nice to make them feel better.

                If you really think about it, relationships really aren’t that complex of an idea. Just know how to understand them and then you should be in a nice, healthy relationship with the girl of your dreams. Now, don’t use this to your advantage and become a Barney Stinson. That isn’t the way to go. Just keep in mind that girls are very complex beings and take a lot of patience, but in the end, they are worth your while if you find the right one like I have.


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